21 Feb 2008

What Do Women Want?

A question I'm sure all men have but no one to answer it. I'm not going to offer you answers, sorry, I'm just asking the question also. I talked to a pal of mine today after a long time, lets call her Mari. Mari has been trying to dump her boyfriend for a few months now. reason? He is not ambitious for her liking. Well, he works hard, he has an okay job but he is comfortable with that. And worse, he lives like pauper. He store away all his money - for the future he says. That doesn't work for my pal Mari, as she says she is alive now, the huger chunk of that money should be used now. It sounded like a petty thing to me until I realized that she had told me that on more than five occasions.

She does not have a job and they have a mutual agreement in which he supports her financially at times. She does not want him to use that money on her, she wants him to invest it, put it towards an income generating project that she will see results from. That does not seem to be going through his head. It is so bad that he has opted to live in shady part of town just to save the money - he living at the bare minimumest

So she gave up and decided to dump him. But he is sweet and kind and she feels guilty about leaving him. Mari ignores him for a while and until he gets the gist.

Now, she is regretting her decision. Why? because the world out there is harsh for her and she thinks about him, to quote her, 'First thing when i wake up, last thing before I fall asleep, and all the time in between'

What I'm i supposed to tell her? You asked for it? Go back and compromise? Hold on, the waves of missing him will pass and soon you will find the one?


4 commented:

Farrside said...

Its the age old thing of women thinking a man should owe them a living. So much for the NEW woman.
Listen to the song...Love is ALL you need.
Why can't your friend see that her boyfriend is caring for his money to give them a future he see's not the one she thinks he should.
She is not working or helping but instead is in fact taking in her relationship.
She should count her blessings to have a man at all with her attitude.
Its time woman stopped being so money driven when looking for a partner and started to ask herself 'What can she bring to a relationship'.
Relationship is a two way street of supposed equal responsability.
A man is not a wallet!
If all women want is to be taken care of and provided for then were is her heart? She is shallow and not worth a man's care or his money.
Love is about giving because you want to without expecting a return on your investment.
Love is all we all need. Build a life together, don't expect one to be given to you on a plate.

Even Angels Fall said...

I don't really think she is after his money, her issue is that it's not earning anything by sitting in a bank.. she want him to invest, to make the money do something for them.

Farrside said...

I understand what your saying DarAngel but if it was as small a problem as putting his money in the Bank, she wouldn't finish with him.
Lets be clear she wanted stability. MONEY!
She thinks he is a waster because he doesn't want to be more than he is. That's what she thinks. Yet she doesn't want to do anything for herself and she can't love him for who he is. So he has a funny habbit with his money, so what! At least he has some. What should that be to do with her? She isn't helping him by finishing with him. She's emotionally blackmailing him if anything.
Good luck to the bloke I say. Move on mate while you can.

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